Put it down. Now back away slowly. Slowly. You can do it. Breathe. Good for you. Keep walking away. You're almost there. What are we walking away from? Our phones.
This weekend was my 35th wedding anniversary. Not sure WHERE the time went but all I know is 35 years ago, we said "I do,” had two beautiful daughters along the way and here we are. Still together. It wasn't all peaches and cream but we made it. In my opinion, married life gets easier after 10 years because you stop trying to change each other. Well most of the time anyway. There are a few things I still nag about. That's a story for another time.
Also this weekend on Saturday, my friend, Emi, and I attended an event in Jacksonville called Stay Gorgeous Girls. SGG is hosted in part by Live Oak local Michelle Harrison and her husband. SGG has a mission to help girls build confidence and self-esteem and I was honored to be a part of it the weekend.
Since my usual Saturday in the office was spent in Jacksonville, I needed to bust butt and catch up Sunday. As Sunday was also my anniversary, I completely focused on what I had to finish so that I could spend the rest of the day with the hubby.
Mission accomplished. Except one problem. When I walked out of my office, I automatically grabbed my phone. My husband has complained a time or two (or 150 times) that I need to put the phone down and be present with him. When you're self-employed as I am, that can be hard to do but I committed to doing that on Sunday.
I have no idea when or why it's become so hard to walk away from the phone but it is. When I was a kid, we originally had a "party" line at our house. Actually I think most families did. We shared the phone line with several other families. You'd pick up the phone, hear someone talking, put it back on the hook and walk away. You didn't stress out because you couldn't make that call right then. It was OK to make it later.
We've become an instant gratification culture and that includes how we interact with our phones. Is this hitting a nerve with you like it did me when I realized I automatically grabbed my phone?
It's time to put that phone down not only for the sake of our relationships, but for our health as well. Our brains need a break. It might be hard because it seems the phone is literally attached to our hands but you can do it. If you find it very difficult, tell yourself you are not going to touch it for 10 minutes. Then stick to it. We can all survive without picking up our phones for 10 minutes.
But be ready for what might happen. You might have an amazing conversation with your spouse and children. You might notice the birds chirping or the buzzing of the bees. You may see how blue the sky is mid-day. In other words, you will be free to notice the many beautiful things in our world. Enjoy them. Have an amazing week!
To your health,
Denise Sanger is a certified fitness instructor, Silver Sneakers Instructor, AMPD Kettlebell Instructor, licensed Zumba, STRONG by Zumba instructor, gentle flow yoga, teaches morning classes at Country Strong Health & Fitness. Denise may be reached at DeniseSanger.com, 386-292-6105 or email@example.com.